I have never been to any IIT before. This is 13th December 2017, standing on its gate waiting for my professor to come, to attend ASCE conference. Just outside the left of main gate there are two cycle air pump kept for bicycle riders but that too tied with an iron chain to pole so as to avoid theft. I am just wondering how it feels when you are inside the campus. Becoming an engineer was never my dream but watching my 6yr younger brother aspiring for IITs can now imagine how important that is for most of us and what is takes to get there, creates lifetime memory to remember. I wish he get into one of those so that I don’t have to wait for long outside in this chilled weather. During inaugural session saw remarkable presentation by President of ASCE Kristina L. Swallow. People gathered from far places to build relationship with the person of same area of interest. Talk about there work and discuss improvement possibilities in their respective fields and share experiences on coffee table. Intension of people coming to conferences is to build a strong network of researchers.
“The Best feeling is the one when you at him and he is already staring at you!”
There is something in his eyes that says, “Honey I Love you!” with a smile on his face whenever we use to meet. Now things have changed a lot. There’s no sparkle in his eyes when he saw me. I miss the way he use to look at me.
This month was hell lot more for me, professionally, emotionally as well as financially. Nothing goes as planned. This month can’t be more worst than this, I already lost everything including you.
How do you know when there is still chances to get back to each other?
It’s for you…. Straight from heart….
I will love you forever because the memories you gave neither replaceable nor repeatable.
I will love you because you gave me freedom to feel free to chase your dreams.
I will always love you because you were there for me when everyone left.
I will love because i don’t ever needed to be fake to you just to make you happy and love me more ( You already loved me more than I wished for..)
How you get to know that ” he is the one! the only one! for you…”
I saw him at railway station for the very first time,when traveling with friends to same place. He was one of my friends friend. i don’t remember much of it but the judgement i made that day, about his character, unfortunately remained somewhere in my mind “whoever he love will be a lucky girl” i don’t know why and how i concluded that. I almost forgot about that day when me met again.
After that, meeting went to infinite loop. Loving someone form the core of your heart, caring about each other in every possible way you can and constantly motivating each other for better is nothing but felt like heaven.
Many people asked me,” what’s your story?” when i don’t reply they assume that either i am introvert or shy, but neither i am introvert nor shy.
I don’t have a story to tell about us, just a girl in love.
He is love of my life and i can’t love anyone like the way i love him. I generally don’t talk about us because there’s nothing but intense feelings, which is hard to explain. It’s was like when i was drowning, he saved me. All i want from him is to pick me, choose me and share with me till he can. “I love you” and “you love me”, all i want to hear is this from him and i don’t care about anything else. I don’t want to live without him. We have changed a lot in past years and things pushed to breaking point but whatever happens will bring us more closer. It’s not the time to give upon each other.
It took so long for me to realise that i wanted to be in his life. We promised each other, there’s no running and hiding, no matter what happens, we will stay together till the end because this is our life this our arena, we can’t and we won’t give up.
At the age of 24, the questions like what is life?, how you picturize yourself after 5 years?, what is your expectation from your partner?, relationship goals, parents expectations, peer group, and most importantly what now you are doing which leads to your satisfaction level?…… All these questions will haunt you every day. All these questions are unanswered, neither an experienced person nor google can answer your questions. YOU yourself have to figure out!
Yesterday, he was on social media and i asked him “whom you talking to?” he replied “Jessica!” I out of curiosity asked him again “Who is she and what are you guys talking about?” He replied with a bit of irritation – ” About work!”
Before going to bed i checked their messages and found out it wasn’t work but an new conversation between old college-mate, with whom he never talked before but have seen each other many times. What do you think has happened next?. Ahha! I acted as i was jealous but actually i was mad at him for not replying properly when asked. This wasn’t the first time he did this. An opaque wall is developing between his and my mind, I am unable to read his mind. He is becoming a puzzle for me to solve and with every coming day, we are becoming more strangers.
“I don’t know what went wrong. Our relationship was headed in a positive direction and then—wham!—it all fell apart.” We don’t talk anymore like we use to be, we don’t share anymore like we use to be. Something is changing, Something is not right or i am just overthinking. Whatever it is but i know one thing that it should be fixed on time, or else time will create a long distance in our relation.
Love, friendship, intimacy, passion, mutual support… all these relationship benefits make for a happier life. Ah, that special someone you can laugh with, who shares your hopes, dreams, and Healthy relationships make you healthy and help you feel secure, strong, loved, and loving – at least some of the time.
Yesterday reading an article about 70 yr married couple died holding hands; I wondered how these people last longer? The only key to their successful marriage is they fall in love with the same person over and over again after every bad break. Bad breaks are scary, change your world upside down but a better understanding and goodwill can be life saviour.
Here are five of the most common checklist for healthy and inspiring relationship, Critically analyse and evaluate as per your own understanding and situations.
1. Giving mental and physical attention:
Making room for a new partner may help you to get over with things you’d forgotten were there. And, of course, he or she certainly has hidden hurts, too. The issue is not the wounds we carry or the scars we bear, since everyone has some of those. The issue is the willingness to examine and work through emotional difficulties. To succeed in a relationship, both partners must be willing to sift through and do the work required to get over a painful past.
2. Avoid lies and Dishonesty:
Lies destroy TRUST component of any relationship. A person’s need to lie is a telling clue about his character and emotional health. It may indicate serious insecurity, lack of integrity, or flimsy moral standards. And if dishonesty shows up while dating, it’s likely to only get worse during marriage. Here’s a sobering fact of life: If your partner is willing to lie to you once, he or she is likely to do it again. But if do lie,make sure that you have a good reason to do so; otherwise thing may not end up the way you want them to be.
3. Jealousy and Possessiveness:
Freedom to be yourself—without someone else constantly telling you what you should or should not do—is critical if your relationship is going to thrive and flourish. Few relationships are able to survive extreme jealousy, possessiveness, over dependence, or manipulative and controlling behavior. Such actions and attitudes are a sure sign that one or both people lack a solid emotional foundation. Placing excessive demands on your partner’s time and attention may seem like a normal expression of romantic love. In reality, it is a destructive form of domination. 90% relationship end up due to jealousy, insecurity and extreme demanding behaviour.
4. Avoid living in fantasy world:
When a woman describes her man as “my perfect Prince Charming” that is Unrealistic expectations which serve as treacherous sinkholes on the road to lasting love . But ground reality is no one is PERFECT; like the two sides of a coin; every perfect looking thing has it’s own bright and dark side but at a time only one can be seen. In a healthy dating relationship, the individuals acknowledge that nobody is perfect and there will surely be problems to address. Every relationship will require hard work and perseverance.
5. Embrace each other’s success:
Being supportive towards each other’s work and achievements will mark a milestone of your happy and healthy relationship. There’s nothing wrong with believing the best about each other, admiring your partner’s positive qualities, and nurturing dreams of a bright future together.
To make the partnership last, take them off your fantasy world, and be alert to warnings of trouble while it may still be avoided. Because life never gives the second chance; it only gives you the second lesson.
You never ready to let your loved one’s go! You just do it….
I haven’t seen death in front of my eyes, specially death of our own parents. I find myself very lucky enough in this case but my father isn’t. I heard him talking to my mom; that he was very upset that he didn’t get to see his father for one last time but he was relieved that he did everything that he could and he was just right beside his mother when she died. My grandparents were loving and caring person. My father is a very strong person emotionally; he never cried in front of us but when they died he cried alot. He is kind of introvert, never let others feel what he is feeling; shows his extreme love towards them.
This is when i realize that how much it counts for a person to stay with their parents in their last time and pay their due respect. You just wanna be there, hear them talking and pray every moment hoping that this is not the time for them to leave.
He think about his mother’s last words off time ” Come! Sit near me…..”
I always keep wondering will there be enough time to talk and share everything you have?
The answer is NO!
There will never be enough time to spend. You just stay there, listen to them carefully. Let them talk about everything they wants to talk about, record their voice in your mind and memorise everything. Just keep sitting there, holding their hands and show your love in every possible way that you can.
As we all just want to be surrounded by our loved one’s at out last moment specially when you know it’s time. Time for us to leave.
No matter how hard you try! nothing’s gonna last forever, everything comes apart at some point. It happens all the time. We have to face it and accept it and try to hold it together for as long as we can.
only thing that make us feel less painful is when you know the reason. It makes me really angry when you can’t relate and your heart feel the pain. when we part, i wish we end at happy note without any doubt.
Life is moving very fast. Keeping pace with the momentum becomes necessary along with self growth and development.”Find your own hotspots and explore it” -this is lot more difficult than it sounds.Most of us leave or change jobs just to find the work which is more interesting and what we love to do everyday but that’s not all. You require a proper mind-set and ability to analyze opportunities and make sound decisions.
1.Find Your area of interest
First of all you need to find the exact information you need to solve a problem on the fly, or go deeper to master the technologies and skills you need to succeed. Sit alone in your backyard and take as much as time you need to figure out where you imagine yourself after few years and what it takes you to get there.
Don’t come up with many answers, just one or maximum two, not more than that.try to know your values, skills, strengths, weaknesses and passion. This is the time to shape something to fit you, rather than shape you to fit your work.
2.Develop Your Work Plan
How are you going to pursue this opportunity? You can’t and shouldn’t do everything. Pick your strategy and tactics, and create a plan. Make it happen. It sounds simple, but execution is the most important part of the process.
3.Keep Thinking Positive
“When you tell yourself something bad will happen to your job, something bad will probably happen,” says Brown-Volkman. “If you tell yourself that you are marketable and confident and that you will always be working, your words can make this true.” build a positive vibes around you, even if things are not getting any better.This eradicates weakness and negativity from you.
You may not want to commute more than 10 miles, but being willingly to bend a bit will open up more opportunities. It will also make you a more smart candidate because it signals that you’re able to handle change.
5.Keep Your Network Strong
Once your mind is thinking positively and more flexible to change. Now it’s time to get creative — by creating your own opportunities.
Read up on what your peers are doing and what you aren’t. Consider how you might strike out on your own — or on the side. Build a network online and offline with the people having similar interest. Analyse the possibilities and outcomes carefully.Build your self-esteem and give you valuable connections. As you’re building up relationships with people who might going to hire you.
6.Consistency In Your Work
you need a strategy for seizing opportunities, one that consistently demonstrates your passion for and commitment to your field. Stick with your plan, and you’ll reap rewards in your job search or business endeavor.
Criticism is the analysis and judgement of the merits and faults of a literary or artistic work. It has both positive and negative effects, depends on how you take in. This thing doesn’t come once in life time, you will come across it every now and then. Therefore it is more important to master it’s features and give it a beautiful but more useful shape. We should take any criticism in such a way that it become beneficial and constructive to you. Constructive criticisms are often suggestions for improvement – how things could be done better or more acceptably. Constructive criticism is more likely to be embraced if the criticism is timely, clear, specific, detailed and actionable. Following step will surely help you to analysis, evaluate and formulate interaction with the criticism.
1. Listen patiently: The very first thing to do is to have patience and listen carefully what the message conveyed by the person. Listen to feedback attentively and try not to repeat that in future. If you want to deal with criticism, then you have to understand the message behind it.
2. Don’t take it personally: There’s no good comes taking criticism personally. More time you dwell on thinking about the words, less time you will get to improve your performance.
3. Don’t respond immediately: If you really want to deal with criticism try not to respond immediately. Sometimes this quick response will land you up into very unwanted situations. Always thank the person for his feedback and take it into consideration going forward.
4. Take criticism in a positive way: Like the two sides of a coin, every other thing have two sides too (positive and negative). Most criticism is probably based at least in part, on some truths. Criticism may appear negative. But, through criticism we have the opportunity to learn and improve from in future.
5. Analyse carefully before you conclude: The problems is that quite often, we only value praise. When people speak kind words we feel happy. When people criticize we feel miserable. If we wish to improve and develop we should invite constructive criticism and appreciate their suggestions.
Sit alone sometime with peaceful mind and do calculative study to look deeply inside the matter and come up with new plan (more like innovative idea) to resolve the issue. This will not only increase you level of confidence but give power to fight against false criticism. Sometimes we are criticized with no justification. This is a painful experience. But, potentially we can deal with it more easily than criticism which is justified. Best way is to remain silent and ignore it completely. By remaining silent we maintain a dignity that others will come to respect.
Everyday we make decisions,consciously or not. For every choice, big or small, there’s no easy formula for making the right decision. The best you can do is to approach it from as many perspectives as possible and then choose a course of action that seems reasonable and balanced at that time. It surely differ from person to person and situation to situation. But there are some simple things you can do to make it less intimidating, such as:
1. Just Stay calm & carry on: When you have any decision to make, the first step should generally be to stay as calm as possible. If you can’t stay calm, put off making the decision until you’re thinking clearly.
2.List all of your options. At first sight, it may appear that there is only one course of action, but that is usually not true. Even if your situation seems limited, try to make a list of alternatives. Don’t try to evaluate them until you’ve got a full list,brainstorm with some family or friends. Don’t jump to conclusions. Once you have generated your list, eliminate anything that is obviously impractical and limit your options as much as possible.
3.Trust your gut feeling: Make your decision based on what feels right even if the list says opposite. 90% of world’s CEO’s believe in this concept. Ask yourself what you want to do and how it will affect your future.
4.Use the “five whys” technique to understand the problem: Asking yourself “why?” five times can help you to uncover the source of a problem and determine if you are making a decision for the right reasons.
5.Analyse your pro’s and con’s more carefully: If your problem is complex and you feel overwhelmed by the variety of possible outcomes, consider making a list to guide your decision making process.
6.Think about the future. At the end of the day, the best way to make a decision is to think about long term benefits rather to go with short term benefits.
7.Have a backup plan. Having a backup plan will allow you to respond to unforeseen challenges and give assurance that if something goes wrong in future you have the backup to overcome.
No matter which decision you make, be prepared to accept responsibility for every outcome. No one can be sure one hundred percent every time,that’s just life.A good thumb rule is to seize every opportunity that is good but think before leap.